Tinder is the end-all and be-all of dating apps. So it doesn’t surprise me why you’re searching for the best Tinder first message ideas.  Frankly, if you’re not on Tinder, you’re not really dating online. Tinder was the app that made online dating cool for singles of all ages. Sure, it also initially added to […]

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As of writing this article, 158 million Americans are living in lockdown cities, and despite what the president says, they won’t be heading out for margarita Mondays anytime soon. For singles from coast to coast, this poses a problem. How are you supposed to meet women when the only places you’re allowed to go are […]

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Figuring out how to date during the corona quarantine can be exceptionally hard — harder than usual, even. Travel restrictions, social distancing, and canceled events can make it look impossible, but thankfully, we have technology to fall back on. Now’s the time to get creative! Those of us who are single especially need to keep […]

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Bumble is the socially conscious man’s alternative to Tinder. In a fashion worthy of her own biopic, Bumble founder Whitey Wolfe was only able to create her company after walking away from another dating app juggernaut, Tinder. After being sexually harassed at work, Wolfe decided to both leave and sue Tinder. This harrowing experience inspired […]

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Americans don’t have sex anymore. I mean, some do. Ashton Kutcher and Tiger Woods definitely get it on, but sex in America ain’t what it used to be. Despite the genesis of dating apps and female liberation, people in their 20s today are having significantly less sex than their parents had when they were their […]

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The universal human pastime is dishing out unsolicited advice.  Whether it’s the best-alleged breastfeeding technique, which car to buy, or the best way to poach an egg, humans love offering up their advice regardless if it’s asked for. When it comes to dating, humans are all too ready to vomit a slew of cliche dating […]

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Dating is a rather modern dating trend. Sure humans have been courting each other for millennia, but dating really only took root last century. Dating back then was easier, simpler, and often involved a chaperone in the form of a relative breathing down your neck. Today, dating isn’t as simple as asking getting set up […]

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If you’re wondering what dating is like in California, you must first clear up one thing — where exactly in California? For example, dating in San Francisco can have different pros and cons versus dating in Los Angeles. That said, if you’re thinking of moving out to the Golden State and want to know how […]

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“You’ve to look people in the eyes.” “Always hold eye contact when you introduce yourself.” “Eye contact is the key to a good first impression.” By the time I was 21, I had heard everything self-improvement advice had to say about the importance of eye contact. And even though it was repeated over and over,

Putting yourself out there in new social situations is hard. It’s even harder when you’re putting yourself out there to find new romantic connections. You’re exposing yourself to potential judgement, rejection, and heartbreak. So to protect yourself, it’s natural to tell yourself made-up stories. You think it’s not worth trying or nobody will be interested

“Here’s what I texted her…” he said as he handed me his phone, exasperated. I was having coffee with a client. He was frustrated because he met a woman at a food hall the day before, messaged her later, and never heard back. I looked at his phone. The screen read… “It was great meeting

Thirteen years. Thirteen LONG years I’ve been waiting for the next album by the rock band Tool. That day has finally come with their release of Fear Inoculum (Spotify or Apple Music). Tool is infamous for poetic, profound, thought-provoking lyrics around life’s deepest subjects. As ridiculous as it sounds, I owe a lot of my personal

John has always had a good heart. Tommy has always been kind of a jerk. But somehow, John and Tommy have been inseparable since they were little. Wherever John went, Tommy was right there behind him. When John didn’t make the baseball team, Tommy said he just wasn’t cut out for sports. When John got

When my wife's first husband cheated on her, her mantra was "Everybody cheats, nobody's happy." That's not true, but if you have a faulty man-picker and surround yourself with similar friends, it may be hard to believe.

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Loneliness is an epidemic. The least we can do is acknowledge that and try to treat it.

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I am a professional at rejection and failure. If I'm ever allowed to leave the house again, I'm going to give corporate speeches on this very subject. I was a virgin until college.

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In the past 24 hrs, the NBA suspended its season, Italy quarantined the whole country, stocks dropped by 20% from their peak, and travel from Europe was banned for 30…

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Your boyfriend wants to be a cuckold. Cuckolding is a fetish that’s rare but growing (as evidenced by a doubling of Google searches for the term). 

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The conclusion that there is NOT a man for you is false. I mean, it may be true, but if it is, it’s a function of your desire to quit dating as opposed to persevering, rather than any objective statement about all the men on earth.

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In many cases, the stereotype is spot on. In plenty of cases, it’s not. That’s why we judge people as individuals, not as groups.

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There are men who really, really want kids like you do. I was one of them. I always wanted to be a Dad and was always looking for a woman who wanted to be a Mom.

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See, for the most part, men don’t “expect you to be successful.” Men expect you to be nice. To accept them as they are without trying to change them. To laugh at their jokes. To be able to carry on a good conversation. To appreciate their efforts to please you. To take the time to look attractive and sexy. To make them feel attractive and sexy. To be his soft place to land

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You dated a guy who decided - after much interaction, intercourse and deliberation – that he did NOT want to be with you. Whether that was because of his job, his lack of attraction to you, his feeling that you were not “the one” or a hundred other reasons doesn’t really matter.

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I think because men are wired a little differently, they are often willing to run into the arms of a nurturing woman even if the man is feeling fat, sad, or overwrought. These guys may not be ready for commitment but they are more than willing to find some sex and emotional support to get them through their tough times.

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Don’t say that to the woman who thinks that if she’s a self-made millionaire, she “deserves” to date a man who makes more. And definitely don’t say anything to the millions of starry-eyed lovers who think that long-distance relationships are a good idea.

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Was there ANY point in this story where he was kind? Patient? Sensitive? Thoughtful? Put your feelings first? Showed that he’d be a giving and willing partner? Demonstrated the kind of character you’d want to pass along to your children?

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I dare you to tell me I can’t do something. I love — seriously LOVE — when the odds are stacked against me. I don’t know where I got the personality trait, because my upbringing certainly wouldn’t have been an one that made me so perseverant. My father was coddled by his mom and his […]

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Go ahead and complain. Go for it, I don’t want to hear it at all. You know the old funny saying, how are you doing today? The pessimist will always say, you don’t really want to know, do you? I remember the first time someone said that to me. I looked at them and I […]

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I want you to listen up… This summer I’ve been traveling a lot again. Most recently I was in Arizona. And I’ve been realizing what is missing in my life: freedom. As I was driving in Arizona on a daddy/daughter trip, just allowing the beauty of the road, the scenery, the amazing company to just […]

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Shocking title, I know. Because you came to this website to read dating tips and advice from this guy, me, who’s been teaching people how to date and connect for 20 years. But, what I’m about to tell you is controversial and true. There’s no such thing as a fucking dating expert. None of the […]

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Here is a message to all of you who believe in shortcuts. They do not exist. Let me explain why, and let me get through to you, finally. First, let’s look at your life. How many things have changed for you in an instant? To go even deeper, how many bad behaviors, lifelong thoughts, have […]

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Social distancing. Self isolation. Widespread lockdown. So much about how we live has changed in such a short time. If we're single, and especially if we're living on our own, this new and rapidly shifting reality can make us acutely aware of our aloneness and bring up some difficult feelings. So how can we love ourselves and take good care of ourselves during these challenging times?

The Bible says in James 4:8, ‘Draw near to God and He will draw near to you’. I believe that in times like this, we need to draw near to God like never before. The Coronavirus situation has affected all of us in one way or the other, and some, more than others. On a personal level, I’ve had plans, some minor, and others quite major, cancelled or postponed, and there is nothing I can do about it. I’ve heard the word ‘unprecedented’ used so many times in the last few weeks that I’ve lost count. Life as we know it has changed and the future seems very uncertain for many. But, as Christians, we have hope because we serve a God that doesn’t change.

UPDATE - 23rd March The UK government are now asking everyone to stay at home, except for essential journeys. Read the latest advice here. With news of the coronavirus (COVID-19) on our screens every day, we understand this is a worrying and uncertain time, and we want all our members to stay safe and well, and to continue to find connection. There’s a lot of differing advice about how to respond, and with the situation changing daily, it can be tricky to know what to do. Our usual advice is to meet up within two weeks of making contact online, but that might not feel like the right thing at the moment, wherever you are.

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So i have tinder gold and my co worker liked me on tinder i think she is pretty attractive and we talk heaps at work. Should i like her back? I just don't want to make things at work awkward.

Can you guys give me some tips how to not be insecure about my self and my looks in my relationship? My boyfriend use to be pretty popular amongst females in the past because he is very good looking. I consider myself pretty, but I always worry that he is going to leave me for one of the girls who are so crazy for him. 😔💔 i wish I didn’t feel like this. I try not to be crazy but it really makes me upset. Please help and do not judge

You ever tell someone how you feel about them because you think they feel the same way but then they tell you they don't and you wonder why you ever thought anyone would feel anything for you? cuz like, damn idk why i ever thought that it would work.

Me n this girl have sexted before and it’s always gone great, but just as we were starting to tonight, she fell asleep, like actually fell asleep. How should I feel? Is it not a big deal?

Ok so unfortunately I’m kinda used to being let down so in a way I know how to handle it. But recently something didn’t go my way and honestly if I was under normal circumstances cough cough covid. I think I would have been better.

But I feel like a fool since I’m bummed out that I couldn’t keep a conversation alive with someone that I ONLY meet a handful of times. Subconsciously I’m like dude get your shit together it’s not a big deal. But shits kinda wack dude and it’s hitting different.

Also feel like a fool because since I can’t really go out for a drive atm so I just drove around the gta v map for a couple of hours. Even freaking NAV’s music started hitting....

edit: nevermind. She let it go to voicemail when I called. Idk why I got my hopes up

Never talked on the phone for someone longer than 20min, especially not a girl I was interested in. Mostly family members if I even talk for longer time...

But I'm going to call a Bumble match later tonight - we had pretty good ice breaker convo in the app, and talked a bit over text until I told her I wanted to call her. Just the basics like some of our hobbies/school/career...

What are some tips to avoid awkward phone silence?

So we met on Hinge 6 months ago when I moved to a new city for school. He’s amazing, caring, and super funny. He treats me like a queen, and I couldn’t ask for better! It’s been my most consistent relationship to date, and I really like this guy, BUT.....

He lied to me about his age. We were having a casual talk on the couch over some wine, and he told me he graduated university in X. When I did the math, I asked him whether he took any gap years, which to he replied no. I then jokingly say, “that makes you 33” to which he replies, that’s my age.

I was shocked. Why would he lie? I honesly just sat there and we continued watching TV, and I was thinking to myself if I had messed up ages somehow (since I was dating other guys at the beginning of our relationship). I then ask him about the Hinge profile, to which he responded he had marked his real age, 33.

We kissed, he left and I went to check one of my screenshots that I had saved 6 months back, and indeed it says 26 and not his real age.

This is a major red flag, and I honestly don’t know what to do. This seems like the tiniest little thing to lie about! I’ve met one of his family members, his friends, his coworkers. But I have real feelings for this guy.

When I called him up about the issue this morning, he didn’t want to admit to anything and say that “age doesn’t matter, and that he sees a future with me”.

Should I forgive him? Should I move on? The age difference is a big big for me personally.

Basically, I overthink way too much. This fills me with anxiety, speculation and fear and its not healthy at all. Neither for my date or myself. This starts with those simple questions: "Who started the last interaction? If it was me, I can’t do it again! How often are they texting? How long are they taking to respond? Maybe I should take my time to answer too, to show them that I’m busy, that I’m not thinking about them…!"Im emotional, sensible and my heart is way too big for my body. Or maybe Im just addicted and feeling lust. Im not a expert in dating. Hence why I'm here searching for advice. I just want to gain experience. Dating people and see how far it goes.

However, I fall in "love" way too fast. I have no idea how I should handle the pacing. Should I write each day? Should I talk about my day each day? Should I say good morning and good night each day or does it get repetitive? I dont want to come out as a desperate person to them. I'm independent for the most part. I just struggle once I met a person Im interested in. The scariest part is that I dont even know them yet. We just exchanged some messages for a week and Im already here thinking about what will happen in the future. What confuses me is, Im a person who pays attention to a lot of details. In my opinion, you can read someone in the first sentences he writes. Is he shy? Insecure? Open-minded? Dominant? Happy? Confident? Of course only if the person acting with their real personality. But why do I blindlessly start to catch feelings for someone I barely know?

Apparently my feelings start spinning around in my head. I cant really think rational anymore. My previous stuff I usually do starts to become boring. Im listening to music, to overcome my emotions. Doing nothing but thinking about that one person. Analyzing his pattern, the way he acts and how he responded to my messages. Im sick of this behaivour and I have no idea how to overcome this.I know for a fact that this is not healthy for myself. Due to corona the situation becomes even harder for me. My bike is damaged since last week. Im not able to go out and do my thing. I freezed my social contacts until corona is over. We only have contact per chat and sometimes phone callings. Same with my dates. We only have contact through chatting. Which isnt a bad thing but rn I have nothing to do at all. Usually I come up with a date immediatly. I dont want to waste that much time with chatting. But thats not working at the moment. Thats why I have too much time to think about literally "nonsense".

Why all of the sudden is it so easy for me to catch feelings for someone? My expecations are going up, I see images in my head and cant wait to see how it goes out. I know I have to take things slow, but I dont know in which pattern. Im honest, in every way possible. If people ask me about my past, opinions or anything related to that Im always down to talk about it. I have no secrets. But I dont want to come out as a desperate person who seeks nothing but a boyfriend, no matter what it costs.Which doesnt mean that I dont want a boyfriend but I think the way I handle this, isnt right.

TL:DR: I overthink way too much. Take things way to fast. Insecure about how much I should write with the person Im interested in. Mainly because Im scared that the person thinks im desperate.

I’m 22 and I feel like I can’t find someone to commit even slightly because I’m the “chill” girl. I’m very laid back naturally and in my friendships I’m normally the one that people come to with their problems. I feel like guys notice this comfort that I naturally provide and use it to their advantage. I don’t know how to get it to stop. Am I missing the signs that these guys don’t want anything from me? What can I do to stop this from happening? Thanks💛

I’ve been in a fwb situation with one of my friends housemates for the last few months. At first the boundaries were unclear and it seemed like we were slowly headed towards a relationship, I developed some very strong feelings for him. However after a couple months he decided what he wanted and was very clear he wasn’t interested in a relationship. I went through being rly sad and then rly mad and then just generally disliking him. I almost ended it about a month ago but I changed my mind the last second because I reasoned if I’d already gone through the mourning period I’d be over it. The sex is really good and I didn’t want to lose him as a friend or make things weird with the friend group. But now with self isolation I’m lonely all the time and he’s talking to me more because he has nothing else to do. It’s making me want more again. I want to ft him and talk but I know he doesn’t want more idk what I should do it’s making me extra not super happy right now.

I’m a 33 year old independent female. I have a great job, I think I’m decent looking, people say I’m friendly and trusting, etc. However, when it comes to dating, I’m always #2 and I don’t know why.

Yesterday, I had a married coworker (33m) text me. I know he’s had a crush on me since before he got married. I’ll catch him staring, he’ll come up to my desk to ask dumb questions, flirt, etc. He always tries to get things to progress further. He even lied/hid his engagement from me for 6 months! I know he has no intention of leaving his wife because we’ve been working together since before he married her and he wouldn’t have gone through with marrying her if he truly wanted something with me. So I feel like he wants to make me just the OW.

Then, my ex (32m) from high school messaged me out of nowhere on Facebook and tried to get me to have phone sex with him. He’s married with two kids!!

These are two recent examples, but why does this keep happening? Does anyone have any advice? I’m 33 and am tired of this. I want to get married and start a family, but I apparently keep attracting the wrong guys and don’t know what I’m doing wrong!

Whats the appropriate time to begin dating again after a LTR?

How To Meet The Right Man When Dating After our article about the issues with women trying to meet quality men, we wanted to publish a little help. Here are some ways how to avoid making mistakes with dating apps and online dating. This will help with how to meet the right man ...Continue Reading

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Dating is risky. It can lead to heartbreak, anger, sadness, and bring up all kinds of feelings of rejection. Feelings that run deep in our subconscious from childhood wounds. It can trigger us in ways that leave us wondering why we even bother looking for love in the first place when it just seems so ...Continue Reading

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I know how it feels to be crying my eyes out, yet again, over someone that I've tried to get over but still loved. Breakups are not only hard, the loss of a relationship can often be just as painful as actually losing a loved one. It makes sense – this person that you loved ...Continue Reading

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"You can pray to God while peeling the potatoes. Or, you can just peel the potatoes." My sister said this to me over the phone, as we were busy catching up from her trip to Nepal. She lived in Nepal for five months, and was telling me the lessons she learned from the people she ...Continue Reading

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“These are for you,” he said, handing me a dozen red roses and a teddy bear before leaning in to kiss me. My first boyfriend, Danny, was standing in the doorway in full army fatigues. He was picking me up on a warm Friday evening in July to take me out to dinner and a ...Continue Reading

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“You’ve to look people in the eyes.” “Always hold eye contact when you introduce yourself.” “Eye contact is the key to a good first impression.” By the time I was 21, I had heard everything self-improvement advice had to say about the importance of eye contact. And even though it was repeated over and over,

Putting yourself out there in new social situations is hard. It’s even harder when you’re putting yourself out there to find new romantic connections. You’re exposing yourself to potential judgement, rejection, and heartbreak. So to protect yourself, it’s natural to tell yourself made-up stories. You think it’s not worth trying or nobody will be interested

“Here’s what I texted her…” he said as he handed me his phone, exasperated. I was having coffee with a client. He was frustrated because he met a woman at a food hall the day before, messaged her later, and never heard back. I looked at his phone. The screen read… “It was great meeting

Thirteen years. Thirteen LONG years I’ve been waiting for the next album by the rock band Tool. That day has finally come with their release of Fear Inoculum (Spotify or Apple Music). Tool is infamous for poetic, profound, thought-provoking lyrics around life’s deepest subjects. As ridiculous as it sounds, I owe a lot of my personal

John has always had a good heart. Tommy has always been kind of a jerk. But somehow, John and Tommy have been inseparable since they were little. Wherever John went, Tommy was right there behind him. When John didn’t make the baseball team, Tommy said he just wasn’t cut out for sports. When John got

You may wonder at times if your partner has fallen out of love with you, or, just doesn’t feel as strongly about you as they once did. You may remember back to those times when your partner brought flowers, or made you dinners that featured all of your favorite foods, or always remembered your anniversary. […]

Human relations… a complicated dance, aren’t they? Especially the relationship you share with your partner.  There are times you probably want to wring your partner’s neck… and let’s admit it, they may be tempted at times to do the same to you. One challenge we have in our relationships is how comfortable we are with […]

You have your way of expressing your love and affection for your spouse, and your spouse has his or her own special brand of expressing the same back to you. Are you reading each other correctly, or are you missing out on these expressions of love? And do men and women really differ in how […]

After an affair, when your marriage has been through a meltdown, you may wonder how to pick up, move forward—and feel love for your spouse once again. Maybe you’ve done the work necessary to save and rebuild your marriage: worked through negative thoughts and images, and gotten off the emotional rollercoaster to something resembling solid ground. Many couples […]

Would you rather have 80% of a good thing, or 20%? Most reasonable people want to have as much of a good thing as they can get. And yet, your marriage may be subject to destruction because your spouse is looking outside of the marriage in a misguided attempt to gain the 20% he or she feels is missing. […]